Boyfriend and I really, really want to do this. He had been looking at sites where couples just dropped everything for 3 weeks or more and traveled in their 4Runners across Mexico and the States.
I think we’ve both got a lot of pent up wanderlust, and even his parents are telling him to move to China or Taiwan for a year because it’ll be an experience that he’ll grow from.
Boyfriend is still looking for a job in the gaming industry, which is leading him to apply (or think about applying) for places in Seattle and NorCal. I think this is where our age difference shows its face. He’s 27 and rightfully pursuing his career, and his financial success, and both of those things will bring him happiness and hopefully a sense of peace.
He thinks if he moves to Seattle or NorCal that we’d visit each other every weekend, or every month and have a long-distance relationship until… what exactly? I move up there? He moves down here? We break up?
It’s a 100% chance of us not being together for who knows how long, and I’m not okay with that.
This is not how things are going to pan out, and here’s why:
Although I have my own career-related goals, and desire for financial stability and independence… I’m pursuing him. It’s a weird situation where I don’t want to hold him back by saying, “If you move there, I’m moving with you,” because he’ll think that I’m giving up on a good job in a great company to be with him (therefore crippling myself, from his point of view). But I’m 22 and I’ve been told I have a lot of pluck and courage. I’m not sure if that’s true, but I know that I wouldn’t be in California if it weren’t for him. I didn’t move everything out here to get a sweet job and enjoy the weather.
I moved out here only for him, and things have just gotten better from there. I’m not going to give that up now and go back to Skype calls and empty blankets and with nothing to look forward to when I get home from work. I want to see him succeed, not hear about it secondhand. The whole reason why we’re together is so we can take these crazy leaps hand-in-hand instead of alone.
Sorry, Boyfriend, but that’s just how it’s going to be. We’re in this together.